We’ve all had our fair share of failed relationships, and have asked what went wrong. In search of answers, we fill the gap with miscalculated hypotheses that push us farther than where we ought to be. Something we all fail to see is that the answers are right in front of us—if not, within us.
More often than not, we find ourselves longing for love that we feel we’d never find, and we’re so immersed in that longing that we ignore the very first step in loving and being loved—loving yourself.
Though it may seem trivial and simple, loving yourself leads to a happy life. While this is a widely known fact, it is a habit a lot of people do not practice.
Why? The sad truth is, most of us are afraid to do so. We feel that loving yourself is a crime; that it is selfish. It is not, and here’s why loving yourself is the first step in gaining and attaining successful and meaningful relationships.
How can you give something you don’t have?
I know you think the idea of somebody loving the parts of you that you can’t even love is romantic. Of course, it is, but it’s not healthy. It’s not healthy to rely on somebody else’s love to feel complete or loved.
Relationship experts from Salt Lake Relationship Center explain that a healthy relationship is a two-way street. Both parties have to give and take love, and how can you if you don’t have any for yourself?
We Cut Down Our Insecurities
Insecurities are the roots of self-loathing. Loving yourself comes with self-acceptance, which opens your eyes to the beautiful creature that is you. We take ourselves for granted and rarely cut ourselves some slack for all that we go through—and when we do, we highlight our good qualities and cut down on insecurities.
Everyone has flaws and insecurities, nobody can get rid of that, but the key is knowing you are more than what your insecurities portray—the bigger picture is, you are worth more than the sum of your parts. It is in knowing this that you are able to love more fully and whole-heartedly.
You Become Confident
What once was self-criticizing is now self-improvement. Self-love makes you treat yourself better, and carry yourself with more charisma and confidence. Knowing you are a work in progress and that you deserve the best emanates an aura, one that exudes the way you feel about yourself.
Loving yourself boosts self-esteem and turns you into the best version of yourself—one worth loving and capable of loving.